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boring messages get boring responses on the dating apps (here's the fix)

tldr: Boring messages get boring responses because you're treating her like an alien species instead of a person. Text her like your best friend from middle school, someone you have zero filter around, and her one-word replies stop being a wall and start being an opening.

#dating-apps#texting#attraction#openers#signal-inversion

there is no such thing as female psychology.

she's a person. that's it. every red pill guy selling you a decoder ring for the female brain is selling you a lie. and the lie costs you dates.

here's what happens when you buy it. you start treating her like a foreign species. someone so beautiful and so special she has to be handled with kid gloves. so you put her on a pedestal. and the second she's on a pedestal, you're beneath her. you already lost. this is the same trap as trying to impress her after she matched. the effort gives you away.

the fix is not a line. it's a mindset. and i want to show you what it looks like in practice.

why do my messages get one-word replies?

because your messages are one-word replies with extra steps.

think about her side of the app. 50-plus new matches a day. every one of them a guy who could be creepy, weird, dangerous, or just deeply boring. she's getting blown up nonstop. you would be defensive too. you would leave people on read too.

her short replies aren't a test. they aren't a filter. they aren't her "being a bitch." it's just what a person does when they're overwhelmed by low-quality attention. you'd do the exact same thing.

so when she sends "how's your week going?" she's not investing. she's keeping the line warm while doing something else. it's a placeholder. and if you answer a placeholder with a paragraph, you've told her you'll do all the work forever.

boring messages get boring responses. you've been asked "how's your weekend going so far?" for the 15th time this week. how do you respond to the 15th one? exactly. you leave it on read.

how should i actually text her?

text her like Jay.

Jay is your best friend from middle school. the one you have no filter around. you say dumb stuff, edgy stuff, offensive stuff, and you genuinely don't care what he says back. that's the energy.

if that feels weird because you can't imagine texting a girl like a guy, use your younger sister instead. or your female best friend. pick up your phone right now and read those threads. i guarantee you text them completely differently than you text your matches. loose. funny. unbothered. that's the version of you that works. the version you send on the apps is stiff and afraid. she can feel the difference, and i wrote about why that fake version gets exposed.

this is the core of Signal Inversion Theory. the moves that feel productive on the apps read as low value. the moves that feel reckless read as high value. effort signals need. carelessness signals abundance.

what does the before and after actually look like?

she sends: "how's your week going?"

here's what you send before you fix anything. this is what i used to send too.

her: how's your week going?

you: Pretty good, busy week at work but can't complain! How about you? Anything fun going on?

read it again. that's a job interview answer. two questions, a humble brag about work, and a polite little door held open so she can give you another one-word reply. you just handed her the most forgettable text in her inbox. she gave you nothing and you rewarded it with effort. this is texting her like it's LinkedIn, and it dies every time.

here's the version that flips it.

her: how's your week going?

you: you ask everyone that or am I just special?

that's it. tiny. it takes her lazy warm text and hands it right back to her. now she has to decide if she actually meant it. her low effort becomes the problem, not yours. you didn't chase. you made her account for herself.

when i ran the first draft through The Guy, it didn't just fix the line. it told me why. "she's keeping the line warm without putting any thought in it. low investment. there's nothing for you to chase." then it told me not to match her boredom and not to write a paragraph. let it sit, or make her the interesting one. that's the difference between an AI that spits pickup lines and an AI that coaches you through the whole interaction so you actually understand what's happening.

other alternate replies it gave me:

you: busy. someone keeps emailing me threats. I think it's you.

you: it was fine until you showed up asking questions.

notice what all three have in common. none of them answer the question. none of them try to impress. they treat her like Jay. this is texting like a hot girl, and a hot girl would never write you three sentences about her busy week. she'd send four words and make you work for the fifth.

why won't ChatGPT just tell me this?

because ChatGPT and Claude are trained on the internet, and the internet's dating advice is either red pill garbage or blue pill garbage. both fail. one tells you to negg her, one tells you to compliment her. neither of them understands that the whole game is being unbothered.

ask a generic chatbot to fix your text and it'll give you something polite and safe and completely dead. it'll add the questions back in. it'll suggest an emoji. it doesn't know that removing the emoji is the move. it's optimizing for inoffensive when the whole point is to be memorable.

how do i know it's working?

you'll stop being afraid to look stupid.

that's the tell. you're not leading with the resume. you're not proofreading a text three times. you say the edgy joke. you say the embarrassing one. you're the unfiltered version of yourself, the one that shows up on a saturday afternoon with your friends and not a care in the world.

this hit home for me on a first date a few weeks ago. dinner, gorgeous woman, and halfway through she looks at me and goes, "i can't tell if you're really funny or really dumb." that's when you've arrived. that's the feedback that means you've internalized the whole thing. the idiot toddler energy is not an act. it's the absence of the act. it's you finally not performing.

and here's why this is the move over everything else. want to attract more women? you could lose 30 pounds. six months. get a better job. six to twelve months in this market. take up tennis to meet people and get in shape. couple months minimum, and trust me, i was terrible when i started.

or you fix the text game today. free trial, no money, right now. it's the highest return move you can make. every other lever takes months. this one takes an afternoon.

stop treating her like an alien. she's just a person getting spammed by boring guys. be the one who isn't boring.

try The Guy at asktheguy.app. paste your conversation, get the version that actually works.

video transcript

Guys, contrary to what every red pill/manosphere influencer tells you, there is no such thing as female psychology. She's literally just a person, and by you treating her like a foreign alien species, number one, it's dehumanizing, let's be real. But number two, and if anything else, let me appeal to your desire for success on the dating apps.

It's always putting you in a worse position. Because if you're treating her like a foreign species, like someone who needs to be handled with kid gloves because she's so beautiful, because she's so special, then naturally you're always going to be putting her up on a pedestal. And what do you think that is doing for you?

Absolutely nothing. So in this video, I wanna give you some before-and-after examples showing you how in practice this will actually play out once you stop viewing them as a foreign alien species on the dating apps. Because the truth of the matter is, gentlemen, you would be acting the same way if you were in her position on the apps, getting blown up with 50-plus new matches a day, all of whom are guys who could easily be dangerous, creepy, weird, and just not have her best interests at heart.

So that's what we wanna get to at the end in this video. But what you have to understand, guys, is that the real mindset shift you must make is just to start texting them like they're your best friend that you've known since middle school, let's call him Jay, and you just need to be the same unfiltered, unhinged, absurd version of yourself that you're with that friend as you are with the woman you're trying to eventually get out on a date after matching with them on the apps.

Now, I can already hear the objections in the comments, all the reasons why this won't work. Trust me, guys, we have evidence that's g- it's going to work with the guy app. It wasn't until I made these adjustments myself that I really noticed my results totally changing. But if you're unwilling to view it because you're weirded out by the idea of you texting a guy or a girl the same way you would as a guy, then think about it as texting your younger sister who you're totally yourself with, you don't care if you say something offensive, or maybe a female best friend, who I guarantee you, if you look at your phone right now and you compare the messages side by side, you're texting your best female friend or your older or younger sister completely different than you are the women on the apps.

And guys, what you need to understand is that her, quote unquote, bitchiness is not a test, it's not a filter, it's not her personality. It's just the same way you would be acting on the apps if you were getting the amount of attention from questionable sources, let's just put it mildly, as she was. That's what you have to understand, guys.

And another thing you must internalize, which I don't think many of you have, is that boring messages get boring responses. Seriously, if you were getting asked for the 15th time, "How's your weekend been going so far?" how do you think you would be responding? Yeah, you would leave them on read too, dude. All right.

So again, guys, what you must understand is just text them like it's your friend Jay from middle school who you have no filter around, and you really don't care what he has to say in response. Let me give you a before and after example. And guys, if you wanna fix the text game, the link is in the description.

Check out The Guy app. We're helping men get out of their own way on the dating apps and text like the catch they are. Free trial, link in the description. So let me give you a before and after here. She says, "How's your week going?" Question mark. Typical, standard. Before, you would say something like this.

Before The Guy app, this is what you're saying, and this is what I was saying too. "Pretty good, comma, busy week at work, but can't complain!" Exclamation points. "How about you? Anything fun going on?" Question mark. Terrible response. You're lucky to get a response if anything. Here's what the guy would say if you were to tell it that this was your plan to send.

'Cause the guy is not just an AI text coach, it's a AI... Excuse me. The guy is not just an AI text line generator. No, it's not just gonna give you pickup lines. It's actually going to coach you through the entire interaction and give you an analysis of what's going on, so you actually have confidence in what you're gonna send and why it's going to work The guy would say, "That's a placeholder text.

She's keeping the line warm without putting any thought in it. Low investment, easy to send while doing something else. It's not a bad sign. There's just nothing for you to chase." Now, here's a critical analysis. Don't match the boredom and don't write a paragraph back. Either let it sit, either let it sit or hit her with something that makes her the interesting one.

What are you thinking of replying? I gave it its response, and then it says, "That's a job interview answer. Two questions, a humble brag about work, and a polite door for her to give another one-word reply. You just handed her the most forgettable text in her inbox. Delete it She gave you nothing, so don't reward it with effort.

You make her account for herself instead. Here's what you should send. Do you ask everyone that or am I just special? Busy. Someone keeps emailing me threats. I think it's you. It was fine until you showed up asking questions. I'd go with one, which was, "You ask everyone that or am I just special?" It's tiny, it flips the warm but lazy text back onto her, and now she has to decide if she meant it.

Her low effort becomes the problem, not yours. So guys, this is what we mean when it comes to like texting like a hot girl. 'Cause a hot girl would send something like the guy just recommended, right? So that is what you must do, but so many of you guys are just willing to engage in this back and forth email conversation like you're messaging with HR at your job, and you wonder why she doesn't respond.

And so this is what you have to understand, guys. And this is why the other AI... This is why the other AI apps like ChatGPT or even Claude are just not gonna be able to give you this level of analysis and help you move forward with the text game. Because they're all trained on the typical either red pill or blue pill garbage that's not going to work.

The AI used in The Guy app is cutting edge. We think it honestly might be artificial general intelligence. We think it might have already arrived. Um, which if we created by accident, we do apologize for. But it's literally that advanced. And guys, the moral of the story of this video is that you must just start being the unfiltered, um, version of yourself the same way you are with your best friends just hanging out on a Saturday afternoon with not a care in the world.

And you will know you have arrived at the right place when you are not afraid to look stupid because of something you said. You're not leading with the resume. You're just not afraid to be funny. Say the edgy joke, say the embarrassing joke, whatever it might be. Recently, this hit home for me personally 'cause I was on a date a few weeks ago with a gorgeous woman.

We were at, we were at dinner, actually. It was a first date, and after dinner she goes, "I can't tell if you're just really funny or really dumb." And that, my guys, is when you are getting messages or getting feedback like that, that is when you'll know you have really internalized the entire philosophy behind The Guy app.

Hopefully, that all makes sense to you. If you wanna fix the text game once and for all... Because guys, think about it. Everything else that you could do to start attracting more woman, w- more women, excuse me. Get in better shape. Maybe you need to lose thirty pounds. All right, that's gonna take you six months.

Maybe it's get a better job, start making more money. That's gonna take you six to twelve months in this job market. Maybe it's like, "All right, I wanna start playing tennis 'cause that could be a good way to meet women, learn a cool skill, get in some, you know, improve my fitness." That's gonna take you a couple months as well to figure out and eventually get good at.

Trust me, I know. I was terrible when I first started tennis. But you could literally fix the text game today. You don't even need to spend any money with the free trial we're giving you with the guy. You could start to fix the text game immediately thanks to the invention of the guy app and the discovery of the underlying philosophy, the signal inversion theory, the stupid toddler frame-- excuse me, the idiot toddler framework.

The reason why you should just be acting scared like she's the dangerous one to completely flip the script. All of these things we had to fall ass backwards into discovering. And me personally, I had to suffer tremendously to discover all this, and now I'm bringing that knowledge and passing it on to you.

So check out the guy app, link in the description. Fix your text game. It's literally the highest return on investment move you could possibly make to dramatically improve the results you're getting on the app. Any questions, any comments, drop a comment and I will get back to you. And guys, again, the sirens keep going off in the background of these videos.

Hopefully you can't hear that. But it just goes to show they don't want you knowing this information. So take advantage of it while you still can. That's it for me in this one. I will see you tomorrow. Subscribe to the channel. Five videos per week. We're not fooling around. This is too important to spoon feed.

Talk to you tomorrow, gentlemen.

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